We always seem to think of women as the ones getting their hearts broken, but it’s fifty-fifty when it comes to relationships and heartbreak. Guys, you tend to have an especially difficult time dealing with a relationship that has ended abruptly. You go into a state of doubt, and refuse to believe it is the end. You just can’t seem to accept that it’s over, and you are just waiting for her to come back to you. Well, you can help speed up the process, and have your life back together sooner than you think.

Language of Desires

First, you need a plan. In a time where emotions are on all high, you need to stay level-headed and focus on your goal. Here are some tips:

– First figure out why you want a second chance to get back together with your ex girlfriend. Is it because you love here? Or do you hate the fact that you’ve been rejected, and your ego is bruised? Do you hate being alone? If your main reason for getting back with your ex is anything other than love, then save your dignity and move on. Any man who can handle rejection like a gentleman is top notch. Remember that.

– So, now that you have assessed your reasons for getting back with your ex girlfriend, you need to make sure that you’re not acting desperate. I’ll give you an example…

I met this guy while I was in college through some mutual friends, and we hit it off. Lets call him Mike. Well, Mike liked me too…really liked me. He became kind of obsessive, (He told me he loved me after a week and got jealous when I was talking to another guy… who ended up being my cousin!) which scared me away. But, he didn’t take that as a clue, and continued to call me constantly, show up at my work, and even have his friends try to pressure me into being with him. Needless to say, things didn’t work out between Mike and I, and I came pretty close to getting a restraining order. Mike is a really nice guy (He still talks to some of my friends), he just didn’t know how to keep his emotions under control.

It’s natural for you to be feeling very strongly for your ex girlfriend right now, but you need to keep your emotions under control. Vent to friends and family, but not to your ex girlfriend. I guarantee if you do that you will scare her away.

– Now, instead of focusing your energy on self pity (you can’t change the past), and start working on the future. If you want your future to include your ex, you are going to have to do a few things.

-Keep the communication lines with your ex open, this doesn’t mean that you have to be the one initiating conversation, but at the same time don’t give her the cold-shoulder. Keep a casual friendship going.

-Be Civil – She hurt you, so it is understandable that you are resentful. But being rude or just plain mean will definitely hurt your chances of getting her back. Instead, be a gentleman and keep your cool around her, be polite. If not for getting back together with your ex, for all of your relationships to come- don’t forget, girls do talk.

-And, most importantly try to figure out what went wrong in the relationship. If it’s something that you played a part in, do what you can to fix it. Find out what caused the arguments, why she wasn’t happy, and work or solving those issues. Once you are able to resolve those issues yourself, you can work on solving them with your ex girlfriend.

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