If you have an ex boyfriend to get back, you might have already tried several things to get him to come back to you.  You might have begged, pleaded, promised to change your ways, and even gone so far as to break up a new relationship he might be having. It’s important to remember at all times how you appear to him.  It’s going to be hard to get him back if you look childish or scheming.

Language of Desires

Try to think of any similar behavior that you’ve displayed since you broke up, and stop them now. Whatever you’ve been doing obviously isn’t working or you’d be back together already.  If you’ve been following him around, showing up everywhere he goes, be it with friends or on a date, your behavior probably seems more like that of a stalker than someone who loves him. When you have an ex boyfriend to get back, things you’re doing to convince him to be with you might be the very things that are keeping him away.

The next time you end up in the same place together, do acknowledge him.  However, instead of going up to him and demanding his attention as you might have done before, simply say hello, then go about your business in another part of the room.  Be nice and polite and simply go.  If nothing else, the change in your behavior will get him thinking.

When you are trying to get an ex boyfriend back, doing what isn’t expected is important. This is especially true if what you’ve been trying hasn’t been successful.  If you’ve been calling him several times a day, stop!  Call when you really need something, not just to rehash why he should take you back.  If you don’t have a reason to call, then don’t call.  After a week or so, give him a call to say hello. Let him know you were thinking about him.  Ask if he’s doing all right.  Ask simple questions like that.

If he starts to sound suspicious, wanting to know why you really called, assure him you called because you missed him and wanted to check in on him.  Then say goodbye and end the call on a good note.  You want him wondering at the end of such a conversation, wondering why you didn’t beg or plead as usual, wondering what’s going on.

If you’re less comfortable with calling for such a thing, mail him a card that simply says you’re thinking about him.  It’s important to give him the chance to make a move.  Don’t  smother him with attention and affection but instead, let him come after you.

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