If you have an ex boyfriend that you’d like to get back, you may have tried some things already to get him to come back to you. Maybe you’ve begged, pleaded, promised to change your ways, or even done things to break up his new relationship. You want to keep in mind how you appear to him. If you look like a childish woman who schemes her way into or out of things, you’ll have a hard time getting him back.

Language of Desires


Think about how you’ve been behaving. If you’ve displayed any of the behaviors I mentioned, stop them immediately. As you can tell, what you’ve been doing is not working or you’d already be back together. If you’re following him around and popping up at the same places he is, you probably look like more of a stalker than someone who loves him. When you have an ex boyfriend to get back you want to do things to draw him back to you, not that drive him away.


It’s highly possible that you’ll end up at the same places by happenstance. When this happens again, acknowledge him by simply saying hello. Don’t go up to him and demand his full attention. That will just turn him off. If you really want to stay at the location, go to another part of the room and enjoy yourself. Another option would be to offer to leave to make him more comfortable. Do this politely, without making a scene. This change in behavior will most likely cause him to think.


You have to change your past behavior significantly when you have an ex boyfriend to get back. If you’ve been calling him over and over all day long, begging him back or rehashing what happened, stop right now. Call him only when you have a good reason to call. If you don’t have a reason, don’t call. After about a week, you can give him a call to just say hello and tell him he was on your mind. Make the conversation brief and superficial.


He may start to sound suspicious and question your real reason for calling and acting so nice. He may be waiting for your usual behavior to resurface. Let him know that you called because you only wanted to know how he was doing. After this say goodbye and hang up with things on a positive note. When you have an ex boyfriend to get back, you want to leave him wondering at the end of this type of conversation. He’ll probably hang up wondering what’s going on with you.


If you don’t think you’ll be able to call and just say you’re thinking about him or making the phone call to him isn’t an option, mail him a card. Let him know that you’re thinking about him. Doing this will give him the chance to make a move. When you have an ex boyfriend to get back, you don’t want to smother him with attention or affection. Instead let him come to you.


Going on day after day can be tough when your heart’s broken and you’re missing your ex. There is a way for you to rectify your relationship. It will take a systemized plan. You can get a peak of Chapter 1 HERE. Go there now. We know what it feels like When You Have An Ex Boyfriend To Get Back.  

Arlissa P. is a Relationship Recovery Mentor. Everyone deserves to have someone special in their life. Perhaps your relationship has broken up and you want to get your ex back. Arlissa is an expert in this area and has written many articles on the topic. These can be found at her Relationship Recovery Blog.