You have just experienced the breakup of a relationship, and you are feeling a great deal of pain over the breakup. The question of how to get an ex-back constantly runs through your mind, and you find that you have difficulty dealing with being without your ex. If your goal is to get back with your ex, you will be happy to know that there are steps you can take to make this happen successfully.

Language of Desires

Step One: Determine What Caused the Breakup

This step is crucial because you need to pinpoint the problems that caused the breakup to occur in the first place. Discovering such problems will enable you to come up with viable solutions, so they will not rear their ugly heads and cause another breakup. While you cannot go back into the past and change things, you can move forward and work to improve matters for the future.

Step Two: Do Not Be Easy

You may feel very anxious to get back with your ex. You may want to call your ex-up right now and beg him or her to come back and tell him or her that you will do anything to make it work. The problem is that if you are too easy, you will show your ex that you are disposable and appreciating you is not a priority. So do not portray such an image about yourself and cut off all communication. Do not contact your ex at all. Live your life, hang out with friends, and pick up a hobby. Show your ex that you are fine on your own. Conducting yourself in this fashion will demonstrate that you are mature and stable.

Eventually, your ex will contact you. When this happens, keep your conversations brief. Do not talk about your feelings too much. Just talk about the good things you are doing in your life and state that you have been busy. Sooner or later, your ex will appreciate you and start missing you.

Do Not Try to Get Back At Your Ex

You may feel tempted to try and get back at your ex because you resent the fact that he or she left you. Should you feel tempted to do such a thing, avoid these temptations with everything you have because you will not only cause your ex to avoid you forever, your ex will get the impression that you have moved on. Since your ultimate goal is to get back with your ex, you will want to abstain from such behaviors.

These are just the beginning steps in winning your Ex back. They are the initial steps I followed when I lost the love of my life. And frankly these aren’t my original ideas. I turned to T W Jackson aka (T ‘Dub’) Jackson when I had no idea of how to get my ex back.

T ‘Dub’ authored a simple, step by step plan called ‘The Magic Of Making Up’, which you can find at my ‘Get Ex Back’ website