Do you say to people, “I want my husband back?” It is fairly common to want to get back with your husband after you separate, no matter how bad things were when you were still together. But before you absolutely decide that you want to get back together, you need to think long and hard about the way things were before you split up.
Think about why you broke up in the first place. Was it his fault, or maybe something you did? Sometimes it is hard to tell whose fault it was since so many little things led up to the split.
If there’s no obvious reason (such as one of you having an affair), then there is a good chance that you can get back together.
If there was an affair or some larger problem, it is still possible to get back together, but it will be more of a challenge. If you are still really in love though, you can do it if you work hard. Both of you need to be willing to work out the problems though.
Have you asked your husband if he’s interested in trying to get back together? Do you know how he feels about the break up? You might be surprised to find out how he feels…whether he shares the same feelings as you or not.
That doesn’t mean that he doesn’t care about you, it just means he might not be ready to try the relationship again yet. It may take time before he is willing to try to work out the problems and get back together again. If you are persistent though, and stick to your goal, you can succeed eventually.
If possible, you can try reading aloud from a book about marriage and take turns. If both of you are willing to read and work together, there is a great chance that you will be back together again soon.
Don’t be alarmed or surprised if he doesn’t want to go to counseling though. If you insistent on counseling though, you could try going to a counselor alone and learn techniques and ideas, then use them on your husband in your own time.
There are certain techniques and steps that will help you get back together quickly. There are also certain things that you should not do or say if you want to get your husband back. Getting help from a counselor is a good idea, but counselors can be quite expensive.