If you have already contacted your ex numerous times while begging and pleading while making an absolute idiot of yourself, you must first forgive yourself. Just forget about it. You have tried so very hard to get your ex back while pushing the idea of reconciling tremendously hard. Your ex still is not returning your calls. This within itself can become very frustrating.
Be truthful with yourself
It is very difficult to get your ex back when they will not even return your calls. Just calling your ex, will not aid in getting your ex back. You need to face cold, hard reality while being truthful with yourself. I want to give you some tips on how to get your ex back, even though you have been acting like an absolute desperate idiot. In desperate situations we often display this kind of behaviour.
The phone method
Call your ex and leave a message. The message needs to consist of sincerity stating that if they will give you a few minutes of their time, you will leave them alone forever if that is what they truly wish. Request that your ex call you back. Your ex will more than likely call you back if you sound truly sincere your ex will more than likely believe you. Ensure that you are willing to adhere to what you have stated to your ex.
Send them a note
If this does not work, then try sending them a note with the same message you relayed on the phone. Your ex very well may be looking for some rest from the numerous phone calls you have placed to them. This method may take a few days but you can often get your ex to speak to you by performing this. This also depends on the emotions involved and how the relationship ended. Getting your ex back will not necessarily depend on how much you pressure them, but it will greatly depend on how you let your ex know that you still love them while not bugging the crap out of them.
Give it time
Once these two tasks have been performed, give your ex some time to get back to you. If your ex does not get back with you, no matter how upsetting this may be, you have to accept the fact that you tried and your ex did not reciprocate with the reaction you were hoping for.
The “no contact” approach
This is where you have to institute the “no contact” approach. Give it some time and hopefully your ex will contact you eventually. You must not continue with your methods. If your ex is not contacting you after your numerous efforts, it might be time to move on. You cannot force your ex to come back.
Do allot yourself some time in hoping you will get your ex back. You do not have to wait forever, you should not but some time and space is what you will need in dealing with the anger associated with the situation. Sometimes we must analyze ourselves in truly finding out the problems, which were associated with the failed relationship. The truth is not always pretty however, it is mandatory that we find the truth in what we did wrong in order to have emotionally healthy relationships within the future upon not getting your ex back.
If your efforts fail in trying to get your ex back you must go on with your life. You have tried everything imaginable in trying to get your ex back and it is obvious at this point your ex does not want you back. Accept the fact that it is out of your hands and inwardly wish your ex well in their future endeavors.
Why is getting your ex back so important to you? Because a good relationship is one of the most treasured of human interactions. We all want to be loved. There are the great times together, the shared dreams and visions, the mutual likes and dislikes and more. Great relationships are essential for enjoying a good quality of life. They color everything else around us.