Many of us make mistakes and it is only when we have broken up that we realize that our ex is really the person we wanted and is the only person we can spend the rest of our life with. She or he was the one and it is only after the break up that we understand this. Now is the time to study some tips to get back together and it really is not an impossible task as some people think.

Sometimes, if you were the one who was dumped, it is a different story and you feel hatred and revenge and are determined to pull out all the stops to teach her or him the lesson of their lives. Revenge is sweet but actually it will leave you much more bitter and twisted. I know some people who are happily married and I still hear them talking about how they want to tell their ex what they really think of them or worse.

But let us go back to tips to get back together, assuming that you are now absolutely sure that this is the person you want to spend most of the rest of your life with. This is going to require a great deal of time and effort and if it is only for revenge, then forget it. Or at least give yourself time to cool off because no big decision should be taken when you are in a state.That applies to when you are mourning the death of a family member, deciding about whether to resign from your job or deciding to get married. You need to be calm and collected when you make decisions like that.

So here are some intelligent tips to get back together again for those who are not seeking revenge but really want this person back for good.

The first tip is not to give the impression that you are desperate. You can easily organise everything with the help of mutual friends so that you can be seen and when your ex does see you, you are really well and happy.Well, at least you have to give that impression and appear relaxed and confident.

The second tip refers to stalking and that applies equally well to electronic stalking (emails and texts) as to physically following your ex or appearing wherever they happen to be. Try to avoid being locked up for staking-after all this is a felony.

The third tip is to studiously remember what were the things that made you really attractive to your ex ? That could be clothes or hairstyle and that means using these all the time you are out as inevitably you’ll be bumping into your ex. Make full use of mutual friends for these ‘chance’ encounters.

The fourth tip is to finally play your cards and actually tell your ex about how you feel for him or her or why and where you went wrong. You cannot go on appearing and never doing anything about it. Sooner or later you have to let them know how you feel.

These are some intelligent tips to get back together again but you can learn a lot more techniques from the link below as you need to know what you are doing.

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