I want my ex to want me back!” said the person feeling jilted and alone. What does it say about you if you’re still in love with your ex? It says that you’re mature enough to recognize true love when you feel it and you’re determined to not let it slip away. If you’re in this situation now you’ve likely been confronted with a whole host of friends and family members telling you that loving an ex is a very bad idea. Obviously, it’s not the position you’d like to be in, but you are and you have to make the best of it. That means you need to buckle down, get serious and find a way to get them back.

Desperation is the emotion of the moment when you want your ex back. To you, nothing is more important, at this moment, than reuniting with your lost lover. That’s natural but it can also be detrimental. It’s hard to hide desperation especially when you see your ex often. You may have resorted to talking to them at every chance you can about the break up. Perhaps you’ve even taken to writing a love poem in an effort to melt their heart all over again. As much as you feel compelled to do these things, stop yourself. Getting your ex to want you back again is all about creating an overwhelming need in them.

You’ve heard the old saying about how absence makes the heart grow fonder. That is especially true after a break up. Gaining a little distance from your ex can help in so many ways. Not only will it make them miss you but it will also give you a clearer perspective. My suggestion is to take a two week break from the relationship and the drama surrounding it. Give yourself a time out and use that time to focus on renewing friendships and getting yourself back into a strong emotional place.

Once some time has passed, call up your ex to see how they are. Be friendly but not pushy. Don’t bring up the break up at all. Instead focus on the here and now and what’s to come. Talk about what you’re doing and what’s going on in your life and ask your ex the same.

If your ex hears in your voice that you’re doing well and even better since the break up, it’s going to feel like a swift kick to their ego. No one wants to imagine their ex getting over them that quickly. If you can stay on this strong and focused path, y our ex will feel weaker and weaker by the day. They’ll want you back just to show you that you need them as much as they need you. So draw on your inner resolve and be the stable and in control person you know you can be.

Your words and actions in the days and weeks following a break up can impact any chance you have of ever getting back together with your ex. One wrong move or word can cost you any chance of happiness with the person you love the most.

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