What’s the best way of going about it? Obviously, depending on personality that’s up to you and what you’re into. But there are a few things every guy should know before throwing himself out there.
Getting a girlfriend doesn’t have to be a traumatic experience, and there is no need to feel like you’re throwing yourself to the sharks. The key is being prepared. Understand that you’re the only tool that you have to work on, don’t rely on anyone or anything else to get the job done for you. The idea is that a girl is going to fall in love with you right? She’s going to want to be with you, so you have to be as genuine as possible otherwise it’s not going to happen.
Do me a favor go open your closet, what’s inside? Is it stylish? Does it fit? Are other people your age wearing this type of clothing? Keeping up with the times is a pain, I know, but it’s necessary. Women are attracted to a whole package, they’re never going to give you the time of day to get to know you if you’re looking a mess.
It’s not all about the physique, it’s about confidence and the way you present yourself. If the hottest guy in the world didn’t shower or bother to wash his clothes he wouldn’t get any girls, so do yourself a favor–be clean! When I talk to my friends about what a “hot guy” is the responses vary except for: clean, smells good, takes care of himself, dresses nice…
So before you go out and get ready to meet girls make sure that you look the part. Get a decent haircut, wear clean good-fitting clothes, and a smile. Never forget the smile!
Talking to Women
Too many guys hide behind their friends when it comes to talking to women.
Take the initiative, and if you feel the need take a friend with you–but never let someone go on “your behalf.” Ever notice how you notice a hot girl but your friend talks to her first, and now she’s into him? Well, you shot yourself in the foot. Like I said, it’s up to you to get what you want–nobody else.
Keep conversation appropriate and listen to what she’s saying. I know, it sounds stupid but you would be surprised at how many guys ask questions and don’t bother to listen to the answer. Women see this as a precursor to what a relationship is going to be like. Make observations about the setting around you, and don’t be afraid to engage her friends in conversation. You have little to gain by singling her out, it’s going to make her nervous and want to run away.
To get a girl’s number offer yours first. Yes, it’s putting yourself out there and you can get rejected but that’s part of life. You may never see this girl again if you don’t do something about it now. Go in with a plan. What are you doing this weekend, is there anything fun going on? Concerts, parties, events, movies (group invite), charities, etc. Mention that you’re going somewhere public and invite her and her friends along.
“So (insert band name here) is going to be in town this weekend and we’re all getting tickets. You’re more than welcome to come and you should bring your friends along too! I’ve gotta run but here’s my number…”
So how do you get a girlfriend? I know it’s an easier question to ask than answer. Don’t over-complicate your life. That was some of the best advice ever given to me, and I think I put it to good work. If you have a minute I’d like to ask you to visit this video my friend put together. Most of the people I’ve talked to about relationships in crisis enjoy this website: http://www.themagicofmakingupstore.info I hope that it can do for you what I’ve seen it do for others.