It can really stink to realize, after the breakup, that you still love your ex and you wish you had never ended the relationship.  This can be so painful for not only your ex, but for you as well.  It’s never easy to admit when you’ve made a mistake and you might wonder if your ex can ever forgive you and if there is any hope for the two of you to be together again.  The goods news, is that yes, in many cases it is possible to reconcile no matter how hopeless it may seem.  Here are some guaranteed tips to get back together that have worked for thousands of couples for many years and will work for you too, if you follow them.

One thing you need to do before you start following these steps is to make sure your motives are pure. It’s very easy to fall into the trap of mistaking loneliness or jealousy for a desire to be back with your ex. These things can sneak up on you and you may not even be aware that that is what is going on.  Take time to make sure that the reason you want to reconcile with your ex has nothing to do with the fact that you don’t have a date for Saturday night or that your best friend just told you that your ex has a new person in their life.

OK, now that you’ve spent some time analyzing your feelings and you’re sure that the only reason you want your ex back is because you think the two of you can have a great relationship and you still love them, follow these steps:

1. Give them space. Do not contact your ex in any way.  It’s important that you both have breathing room so that you can each miss the other. If you are constantly contacting your ex, you aren’t giving them reason to fear that they may have really lost you.  It’s that fear that will make them more receptive to giving things another try.

2.Take stock of the person you are and what you need to change.  This is tough because no one likes to face their own bad traits, but it’s imperative if you want to have a good relationship in the future, even if it’s with someone new.  There is no point going from one relationship to another (or back to a previous relationship) dragging the same bad habits with you. If you do that you will just leave a trail of destruction that will cause you and your ex a lot of pain. Figure out what you need to change about you, and then make those changes.

3. While you’re spending time trying to improve the person you are, spend time with the people you love doing the things you love to do.  This is not the time to sit around feeling sorry for yourself, it’s the time to live your life to the fullest, no matter how hard that may seem at this point.  This will remind your ex of the person they fell in love with in the start.

These guaranteed tips to get back together have worked for many people and if you’re willing to use them to restore your relationship, they can work for you too.

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